Help! It's Valentines Day And I'm On My Period...

What are the chances?! If you’re anticipating being on your period for Valentine’s Day, we feel you! What sucky timing. Luckily for you, we’ve got all the info and tips you need to make Valentine’s Day a bloody good time, regardless of your menstrual sitch. Whether you’re up for trying period sex, or looking for other ways to be intimate, we’re laying it all out on the table. Here we go... 

Can I still have sex on my period? 

You sure can! *cue happy dance* There’s no medical reason why you should avoid sexual activity while menstruating. In fact, your sex drive changes throughout your menstrual cycle, and while some say their libido increases during ovulation, others report feeling more ‘up for it’ during their period. If that’s the case for you, your timing couldn’t be better, because having sex when you’re menstruating can actually offer a few advantages, including relief from menstrual cramps.

A few things to keep in mind though; yes, you can still get pregnant while on your period (sperm can stay alive in your body for up to seven days, remember), and yes, you are still at risk of catching/spreading a sexually transmitted infection (STI). Many STI viruses live in blood, they can spread through contact with infected menstrual blood - the only way to properly protect yourself is by using condoms. 

You’ll also need to remember to remove your tampon before sex if you’re using one. You don’t want one of those to get pushed up further than it’s supposed to be, not only because it’s uncomfortable and can risk Toxic Shock Syndrome (TSS), but because it can be dangerous and require a doctor to remove. In short, take out your ‘pons!

What about the mess? 

Ah yes, the not-so-nice part of having sex on your period. Some people are squeamish or self-conscious when it comes to blood, particularly if you have a heavy flow and it gets on you, your partner, or your surroundings. If you’re worried about any of this, it can take the fun out of sex entirely, so deciding in advance what you’re comfortable with may help.

You might want to try laying a towel down, getting a dark coloured sheet that will mask any stains, dimming the lights for less of a crime scene vibe, or even giving shower sex a go - though we’re calling BS on how good that looks in the movies. Also, it’s always handy to keep some wet wipes or a wet cloth nearby for quick cleanup afterwards. Lastly, don’t be afraid to talk to your partner about it so you can air any worries you have and feel relaxed throughout. If you’re both down to try it and open about your insecurities, you can’t go wrong.

What if I’m feeling rubbish?

That’s completely fine, there should be no pressure on you to make sure sex is on the table on Valentine’s Day. You need to feel comfortable and in the mood or it’s not worth the hassle. And if you’re suffering from PMS, cramps, bloating, or the dreaded period poops, you’re probably going to want to opt for popcorn and a movie instead. 

Can I do other stuff?

Masturbation and mutual masturbation is totes OK. It’s safe, potentially less messy, you can do it with a tampon in if you like, and it could even relieve period pain. Win, win, win! 

If you’re not up for anything physical on the big day, or you’re looking for creative ways to be emotionally intimate instead (very relevant during lockdown if you’re trying to date from afar!) why not try the famous 36 question challenge. These questions supposedly lead to love, and while we’re not entirely sure if they work, they’re a great way to connect with someone special on the most romantic day of the year. 

Are you coming on your period for Valentine’s Day? Share your creative date night solutions with us over in our private Facebook group or drop us a note on Insta @itsyoppie. Don't forget that our personalised period subscription box can get organic tampons, pads, liners (and more!) delivered easily and regularly through your letterbox. That frees up some headspace for thinking about more fun things!