Have you had an IUD (intrauterine device) fitted? How did you find the experience? If you experienced pain, you wouldn’t be the first. In recent months, there have been long overdue conversations in the media about women’s pain, with IUD fittings at the heart of the matter. 

Doctors and those in the medical profession are incredible at what they do, but the fact remains; only you know your own pain threshold and levels of discomfort, and if many of those getting IUDs say the pain is intense, isn’t it about time we listened? 

How common are IUDs, and how painful is insertion?  

The UN states around 159 million women have had an IUD fitted (as of 2019), and it remains a convenient and effective method of birth control for those who want something long-term, who struggle to take the pill every day, or who need non-hormonal options. 

For some, the insertion procedure is perhaps a little uncomfortable, but nothing to write home about. In other cases, it can be intensely painful. With more voices weighing in on what an IUD fitting is like, BBC presenter Naga Munchetty called it “one of the most traumatic physical experiences I’ve had”. And it makes sense, since your cervix is designed to have a baby come out, not to have a device go in. It’s no wonder our bodies recoil in pain.

Why is it painful for some but not others? 

Studies have found women who have never given birth vaginally tend to rate their pain level higher (6 out of 10) than those who have (3 out of 10). If your procedure goes smoothly, you could be in and out in 5 minutes feeling barely a twinge. This is the case for many people, and we certainly don’t want to put anyone off of this effective birth control option. That said, pain management for the procedure is typically offered under the assumption that everyone will have a largely pain-free experience. Unfortunately this is not the case. 

Why aren’t we offered more pain relief? 

It can feel a little like gaslighting when - for example - the NHS website claims “It can be uncomfortable when the IUD is put in, but you can take painkillers after, if you need to.” Anyone who’s suffered from intense period cramps will know that sometimes popping a couple of paracetamol won’t always cut the mustard. 

You may experience a difficult insertion, multiple attempts at insertion, cervix spasms, or pain lasting several days after the procedure. In any case, this should not only be made aware to all who opt for an IUD, but they should also be offered adequate pain relief. 

A local anaesthetic injection around the cervix can reduce some pain and discomfort when having an IUD fitted, but it’s not typically offered. While more research is needed, studies suggest this could be helpful for those who have never given birth vaginally.

Women’s pain isn’t always taken seriously for IUD fittings, and for issues such as endometriosis, which research shows takes a staggering 7.5 years to diagnose, on average. 

As author Gabrielle Jackson writes in The Guardian, “Women weren’t included in clinical trials until the 1990s. While we make up 70% of chronic pain patients, 80% of pain medication has been tested only on men.” 

Historically most medical research has been done on males, so there’s room to discover more about women’s bodies, health conditions, and how to treat the ailments many of us live with every day. This has been found in studies on gender stereotypes and pain, where men’s complaints are usually taken more seriously.

Astoundingly, the Harvard blog states that gender biases in medicine can have serious consequences; a 2000 study found women are 7x more likely than men to be misdiagnosed and discharged during a heart attack. While research on disparities is ongoing, it certainly raises questions. 

If you have suffered a horrendous IUD insertion and were told it’s normal, or you live with chronic pain without diagnosis, know that you’re not being “over dramatic” or “emotional”. Communication is often key when you want to voice your concerns. Speak to your GP or nurse about the pain, its intensity, and how it affects your life. 

Getting an IUD and worried about pain? Don’t be afraid or embarrassed to ask questions, voice concerns, or ask to stop at any time. There are often pain relief options available that aren’t immediately offered, so ask the question to prompt a discussion. Doctors and nurses want to help you have a pain-free experience, so give them a chance to do this by effectively communicating your pain. 

A recent uptick in discussion around women’s pain in the media and medical community means we are beginning to take notice of this issue and address it. After her own distressing experience, Lucy Cohen - a small business owner in Wales - began a petition to address women’s pain during IUD procedures. She has had around 1500 people share their stories, and found that on a pain scale of 0-10, 43% of respondents rated their pain as a 7 or higher, describing it as “almost unbearable”, “excruciating”, and a few even likening the pain to childbirth or broken bones. 

The Change.org petition asks for better expectation management of IUD insertion and removal procedures, and more pain relief options as standard, such as gas and air, sedation and muscle relaxants. You can read more about Lucy’s work and sign the petition here. 

Have you experienced a painful IUD procedure? We’d love to hear about your experience, good or bad. Speak about it in our private Facebook group or drop us a note on Insta @itsyoppie. Don't forget that our personalised period box can get organic tampons, PMS supplements and more delivered easily and regularly through your letterbox, so that's one load off your mind about everything that normally goes on down there.

IUD SOS: Why Isn't Women's Pain Taken Seriously?

Plastic is like that toxic friend you keep trying to cut out of your life, but they keep finding a way back in. Though historically it may have been difficult to stick to your plastic-reduction goals, Plastic-Free July is upon us, and with it comes a renewed energy for making better choices to reduce single-use plastics. But how do we do this for our skincare and beauty routines? Let’s find out:

There’s no point in pledging to reduce your plastic waste, and then proceeding to throw away all the plastic in your bathroom in the name of the environment. Instead, use ‘em up. Begin your plastic purge by using up the plastic products already in your home. 

If you have a bunch of bottles with a teeny bit of product left inside, purchase some reusable containers and squeeze all excess product into them to use for shaving your legs - this is a great way to avoid pouring products down the drain. Then, recycle as much of the plastic packaging as you possibly can. 

You may also want to ask your friends and family if they’d like to use anything before you throw it out. If you’re giving products to someone that you don’t live with, remember to share only Covid-friendly items like bottled products rather than makeup.

One of the best ways to avoid unnecessary plastic is to avoid unnecessary products. If you’re already reducing your plastic, this is the perfect time to also reduce the number of products you use on a daily or weekly basis. 

Go through your makeup bag and find products you hardly ever use, or could do without. Streamline your routine to use less plastic, and enjoy the added benefits of saving space, time and money. 

It’s time to start the fun bit - researching products. There are lots of plastic-free options out there, but they are not always easy to get a hold of. You may need to do a bit of digging and order online, but all the forward planning will be worth it in the end. A quick Google will bring up some good products, or try sites like Ethical Superstore to find more niche options. 

Search for skincare and makeup brands that use glass bottles, which are becoming more popular for their eco-friendly status and the fact that they look nice on a bathroom shelf. Other options are available depending on the products you need, like cardboard and paper packaging, and there are even some brands using biodegradable sugarcane packaging - very cool. Pai Skincare is one. 

If you travel frequently and don’t want to buy those little plastic travel-size products or pick up things on the go, experiment with zero-waste bars of soap, shampoo, and other products that come in solid form but disappear upon use. They’re travel friendly, easy to use, and there’s no need to worry about packaging at all. Solid shampoos like HiBar and the LUSH range are a great place to start. 

Don’t forget that your disposable razors also impact your plastic output, so look into reusable ones like FFS and Estrid to keep your legs and your conscience smooth. Or better yet, avoid the refills entirely by switching to a safety razor. 

No, it’s not just your grandad that uses them. It might look a bit intimidating at first, but it’s designed with safety in mind and is really easy to use. Plus a safety razor can save you money in the long run as they’re built to last. 

One product that is notorious for coming in plastic packaging is deodorant, particularly the ones with a roller ball inside. Many putty style deodorants now come in alternative packaging, like glass, metal or cardboard. 

We love brands like Wild, and also Fussy have a reusable case made from recycled plastic. Their refills are 100% compostable and made from waste material. Good for the planet and your pits!

Some brands are starting to offer the option (and sometimes incentives) to recycle your plastic packaging in a responsible way. Look out for brands that offer refillable options so you can reuse the packaging and simply purchase refill pouches to top up. Tropic Skincare do this, and offer this option across many of their skincare, body care and makeup products.

You can also send products back to some brands, for example, Garnier have a partnership with TerraCycle that makes it easier for their packaging to be recycled, and Pai Skincare’s range is great because pretty much anything you can’t recycle yourself, you can send back to them and they’ll sort it out for you. 

Our skincare and beauty routines include many products we don’t even think about; some used daily, some weekly, some hardly ever. Taking time to think about what else in your beauty or skincare routine might be made with unnecessary plastic can help you plan ahead and make sure you’re not forced to buy more plastic in lieu of a good alternative. 

Consider things like your hair brush, cotton buds, hair ties, toothbrush, floss, and so much more. Switch to bamboo options where you can, and look for anything biodegradable so it doesn’t stick around for too long. 

Are you trying to cut back on your single-use plastic for Plastic-Free July, or just because? Tell us how you’re getting on, and any tips you’ve discovered, in our private Facebook group or on Insta @itsyoppie. Don't forget that our personalised period box can get organic tampons, PMS supplements and more delivered easily and regularly through your letterbox with eco-friendliness built in, so you know you aren't adding to that big ol' landfill problem with your time of the month.

How To Create A Plastic-Free Skincare & Beauty Routine

Aww dang it. You thought you were period-free this week and now your clean white knickers have fallen victim to some surprise spotting. Don’t worry, it happens. But why? What is that mysterious pink blood and where does it come from? If you have questions, we have answers. Get your white pants in the wash pronto, and let’s take a look at all things spotting. 

Spotting, sometimes referred to as ‘intermenstrual bleeding’, is a little bit different to a period. It’s still blood coming from the vagina, but it happens outside of your usual period cycle and is normally a much smaller amount of blood. 

Spotting is lighter than a period. Sometimes you won’t even see it in your pants, you’ll just notice it on your loo roll when you wipe after going to the bathroom. In fact in many cases it won’t be worth using a tampon because there won’t be enough blood. A liner will do the trick here. You may also notice the blood that appears when you are ‘spotting’ is more pink in colour, as opposed to darker red. 

You are likely to know the difference, as your period tends to bring along PMS symptoms that you’ll recognise, such as bloating, cramping, sore breasts, tiredness, mood swings and so on - spotting doesn’t produce these symptoms. Your period will also likely follow a regular schedule so you can predict it, whereas spotting is less predictable as it turns up randomly in between periods. 

There are many possible causes for spotting; some totally normal and safe, others you may want to keep an eye on or speak to your GP about. Here are some of the most common reasons you may be experiencing spotting. 

Hormonal contraception - If you are taking hormonal contraception, you are more likely to experience spotting between periods, especially since irregular bleeding is rather common in the first few months of taking a new hormonal contraceptive. You may also see some spotting if you miss your combined pill or progestogen-only pill, or if you’re ill and throwing up or experiencing diarrhoea, as this can render some hormonal contraceptives ineffective. If you have a patch or vaginal ring and you experience spotting, you may need to get this checked by the GP to make sure it’s working as it should be. 

Ovulation - If you are ovulating, you may be one of around 3% of people with periods who experience ovulation spotting. Around this time in your cycle is when your ovary releases an egg, and sometimes there’s a little blood. It’s all good. It’s normal. 

Pregnancy or implantation bleeding - Pregnancy tends to mess with hormones and bodies in lots of crazy ways, and one that you might notice in the first trimester is some light spotting. This can be worrying for many, but it’s important to remember that light bleeding like this happens for about 15-25% of pregnant people, and doesn’t always mean there is anything wrong. Still, if you are worried about this it’s always best to go speak to your GP so they can put your mind at ease. 

Then there’s implantation bleeding, which happens when the fertilized egg embeds itself in the lining of the uterus - this can cause some light bleeding. If you start to experience only spotting and no period, this could be a sign of pregnancy.

Menopause and perimenopause - In the years leading up to menopause (called perimenopause), you may notice your periods become more irregular, and spotting may occur. This is normal, although once you have entered menopause, if you continue to experience bleeding or spotting you should contact your GP to check everything is healthy. 

Polycystic ovary syndrome - Polycystic ovary syndrome, also known as PCOS, is a condition that affects the release of eggs from the ovaries. Due to fluctuating and sometimes imbalanced hormones, PCOS sufferers can experience irregular periods, missed periods, and, you guessed it, spotting. 

Endometriosis - Endometriosis is a condition where tissue from the inside of the uterus grows outside of the uterus where it shouldn’t be, which can cause a whole lot of unwanted symptoms. Spotting is one of them. Although spotting isn’t painful in itself, other symptoms of endo might be, so don’t be afraid to speak to your doctor if it is affecting your daily life. 

STIs - Sexually transmitted infections like chlamydia and gonorrhea can sometimes cause spotting too, either between periods or after sex. If you experience other symptoms related to STIs like painful urination, vaginal discharge, itching or pelvic pain, you should check with your GP to make sure it’s all good down there. 

Broken skin - If you have had particularly rambunctious sex or haven’t used enough lubrication then this may have aggravated the skin inside the vagina and caused a small amount of fresh blood that looks similar to spotting. This will typically heal on its own, but if it causes discomfort or you are worried there is more blood than there should be, go speak to your GP for advice. 

Got a question about spotting? Speak about it in our private Facebook group or drop us a note on Insta @itsyoppie. Don't forget that our personalised period box can get organic tampons, PMS supplements and more delivered easily and regularly through your letterbox, so that's one load off your mind about everything that might be going on down there.

Period Spotting: What Is It & Why Does It Happen?

*yawn* Do you experience PMS fatigue for several days each month? How about for a whole week? If that’s you, you’re probably sick of just riding it out and going about the same activities you normally would, but with only a quarter of the energy you had before. 

PMS and its causes are still somewhat of a mystery, but it is believed to be a result of hormone fluctuations; hormones go haywire, iron levels dip due to heavy bleeding, food cravings cause spikes in blood sugar, and sleep becomes disrupted… a recipe for PMS fatigue. This could mean a few days of yawning at your desk, or even an inability to get off the sofa due to extreme physical weakness. Whatever your PMS fatigue looks like, there are steps you can take to boost your energy. Here we go...

In many cases, lack of energy is directly caused by lack of sleep. PMS not only disrupts sleep, it can give some people full-blown insomnia, as fluctuating estrogen and progesterone levels tend to affect the ability to fall and stay asleep, and the quality of sleep you get. A 2007 National Sleep Foundation poll found that 33% said they felt their sleep was disturbed during their menstrual cycle. 

If you’re one of a third of people who experience this, having a sleep routine could help. This includes screen-free time beforehand, similar bedtimes and waking times, and a cool temperature in the bedroom to regulate your slumber. Even if it’s disturbed, taking these steps can maximise the sleep you do get. And if all else fails, don’t be afraid to enjoy a midday nap. Catch any Zs you can, no matter the time of day. 

Food is so important for our energy levels. You’ve heard it a hundred times before, but when you’re experiencing that PMS this advice becomes all the more relevant. This means eating healthy, whole foods, upping your vegetable intake, reducing your junk food intake, avoiding alcohol, and saying no to added sugar, like fizzy drinks. Yes, even those marketed as energy drinks - they may provide a quick boost of energy but won’t solve the issue at hand. The same goes for caffeinated drinks like coffee. Drinking more water is always going to give you more benefits, so stick with the H2O. 

Any foods that cause your blood sugar to spike are likely to be followed by an energy crash, which will make you feel more fatigued in the long-run. If there’s ever a good time to improve your diet, it's when your PMS is at its worst. You probably won’t feel like it, but it’s going to make one of the biggest differences to your energy levels. 

Already eating healthily, but still having energy problems? There are lots of supplements and superfood powders out there that may help. Some exist specifically for pre-workout energy, some are for getting through that 3pm slump, and some are made specially for PMS symptoms - our very own Hormone Hero supplement is the one we’d always recommend to give you the sustained energy levels you need to get through your time of the month. 

This daily supplement contains 12 key, natural ingredients to support the hormonal symptoms of PMS, including bloating, digestion issues, and of course... fatigue. With powerful essentials like Iron, Vitamin B6 and Vitamin B12, this supplement is designed with your tiredness and fatigue in mind, and promises to kick it to the kerb. 

You’d be forgiven for thinking exercise is only going to make you more tired, but this couldn’t be further from the truth. Firstly, a 2015 study found that a moderate amount of aerobic exercise during PMS symptoms can boost energy levels and improve concentration, so it’s already a useful tool for improving how you feel. 

Not only that, exercise in general tends to give people more energy, rather than depleting it. Sure, it can feel like a chore to get your leggings on and drag yourself to the gym, but once you’re there and smashing out some cardio (or going for a walk or doing yoga - any exercise can do the trick) you’ll notice your energy increases, even if your muscles feel a bit achy and tired. This improves focus, overall health, and knackers us out for better sleep.

If you’re feeling tired and lethargic, it’s probably your body’s way of telling you to rest. If you’re tracking your menstrual cycle, plan ahead to make sure that during your most tired PMS-y days you’re doing the bare minimum and taking time to yourself instead. This will ensure you emerge from your period cocoon with more energy to do the things you love.  

Remember, if fatigue persists even after you try the above tips, or it’s so severe that it interferes with daily life, speak to your GP to find out if anything else is affecting this, like an iron deficiency or thyroid disorder. Whatever the case, your GP may recommend medication (such as birth control) to regulate and manage PMS symptoms, and help boost your energy. 

Do you experience fatigue when you have PMS? How do you manage this? Tell us about your experience and ask any questions you have in our private Facebook group or drop us a note on Insta @itsyoppie. Don't forget that our personalised period box can get organic tampons, PMS supplements and much more delivered easily and regularly through your letterbox, which leaves more time each month for coordinating those energy boosting breaks.

PMS Fatigue: Why It Happens & How To Beat It

We’re laying all the slippery, slidey stuff out on the table. Yes, it’s time to talk lube, and whether you’ve used it before or you’re curious to try it for the first time, we’ve got the deets. Lube (or personal lubricant) can be useful for a number of reasons, so let’s slide on in there and see what’s what! 

Lube is generally handy to have around, the main reasons likely being for pleasure purposes, to manage vaginal dryness, and to make anal sex easier. 

Your vagina produces its own natural lubricant, which is a fluid that comes from the cervix and secretions from the Bartholin glands that keep the vagina lubricated. When you’re aroused, these glands create excess fluid to reduce friction. If your vagina is unable to produce its own natural lubricant then you may need a little help getting something in there, such as a tampon, fingers, a toy or a penis. Some common reasons for vaginal dryness are:

Taking certain contraception or antidepressants

Going through cancer treatments, such as chemotherapy

Lube is a slick, slidey substance you can put around the opening of your vagina to make sure everything glides in without friction, and the same goes if you’re having anal sex. The anus does not create its own lubrication, so lube is pretty essential for anal sex. And of course, there’s the added bonus that it makes sex, whether vaginal or anal, feel great too!

First things first… don’t try to use creams, soaps, lotions, petroleum jelly, moisturisers or the like inside your vagina or anus. While it may seem like these will do the trick (and they might in the short-term), this can cause infections down the line and could even irritate your skin down there. So, lube it is then! 

You’ll want to start by choosing according to any allergies or skin sensitivities you have. If you know you are usually allergic or sensitive to an ingredient in, for example, your face wash or moisturisers, then you’re likely to be sensitive to it with lube too. 

The most common types of lube you’ll find are:

Water-based - These can be used with silicone toys and condoms, both latex and non-latex, and may even decrease risk of condom breakage. Water-based lube is unlikely to stain sheets, and quickly washes off in water. Excellent choice. 

Oil-based - These are known for being more long-lasting, so you won’t have to re-apply as much as other lubes. Great if you’re looking for a lube that can potentially double as a massage oil, but they’re not so good with latex condoms as they increase the likelihood of breakage. Oil-based lubes are also associated with higher rates of infections like bacterial vaginosis, and can stain sheets and clothes, too. So, they have some downsides. 

Silicone-based - These are particularly good for sensitive skin, as they’re so silky smooth. Silicone is hypoallergenic, so if you’re worried about allergies this is the one to look for. And in the bedroom, silicone is compatible with condoms, and tends to last longer too, so less re-applying. Keep in mind silicone lube can affect silicone toys and allow bacteria to grow on them, so if you share toys with a partner you may want to opt for a water-based lube instead. 

Natural - These are becoming more common. Natural means they’re created using only naturally derived ingredients. There are even organic, vegan and eco-friendly lubes popping up, which can be useful as many of them are free from parabens, and so, good for sensitive skin. But some natural lubes may have a shorter shelf life, so look out for the expiration date. 

How will I know if I’m sensitive to lube? 

If you don’t already know if you are sensitive to any ingredients, it may be a case of trial and error, although there are a few ingredients you may want to look out for and avoid, as they are associated with increased irritation or inflammation. These include glycerin, petroleum, propylene glycol, nonoxynol-9, and chlorhexidine gluconate. 

Generally, personal lubricants are designed specifically for the unique pH levels of the vagina, so most use relatively calming, non-irritating ingredients. It’s always best to check the label though, and know what you are putting inside your body. 

Try ‘em out! Just like finding your favourite moisturiser, you may need to try a few brands, textures and scents to discover what works for your needs and preferences. Whether you are using lube to keep things slippy for your tampons, or you’re experimenting sexually, there’s a lube out there for you and you’re allowed to try them all to see what you like. 

What about flavoured lube? What’s it for? 

If you’re going to be using lube and also having oral sex, an edible, flavoured lube is sometimes preferred. This makes oral sex a bit more exciting and tasty! There’s no harm in trying this to see if you like it, but if you don’t fancy the idea, a classic unscented, flavour-free lube will do the trick too. Just make sure if you’re having oral sex you choose an edible one. 

Do you have a lube preference? Or are you still looking for “the one”? We’d love to know! Shout out over in our private Facebook group, or drop us a note on Insta @itsyoppie. Don't forget that our personalised period box can get organic tampons, pads, liners (and more!) delivered easily and regularly through your letterbox. That frees up some headspace for thinking about the more fun things you can get up to down there...

The Lowdown On Lube

Got questions about LGBTQIA terms you’ve come across, or how to share and ask for pronouns? Whether you identify as LGBTQIA or not, brushing up on your knowledge of terminology and pronouns is a small step that can make a big difference to those around you, making sure they feel heard and understood in daily life - something we all deserve. 

Here’s our guide to LGBTQIA terminology and pronouns, correct as of Pride Month 2021. Let’s go… 

Over the years you may have come across various iterations of the acronym, including LGBT, LGBTQ+, and later LGBTQIA. There are other letters sometimes included, but these are the most common. According to Outright International, LGBTQIA stands for:

Lesbian - Often refers to a woman who is attracted to other women

Gay - Often refers to a man who is attracted to other men

Bisexual - Often refers to someone who is attracted to more than one gender

Transgender - Often refers to someone whose gender identity/expression does not conform to the sex they were assigned at birth. Transgender people have different sexual orientations, with some identifying as straight, while others may identify as LGB

Queer and/or Questioning - Queer often refers to anyone who is not heterosexual and not cisgender. It’s used as somewhat of an umbrella term, and historically was used as a slur. More recently the term has been reclaimed by LGBTQIA communities, though some still find it offensive. Questioning refers to someone who is unsure of their sexual orientation or how they identify

Intersex - Often refers to people who naturally have biological traits which do not match what is typically identified as male or female, based on their X and Y chromosomes, ambiguous genitalia or internal sex organs. Being intersex is not linked to sexual orientation or gender identity

Asexual and/or Ally - Asexual often refers to people who do not experience (or experience low levels of) sexual desire. This can include those who are interested in having romantic relationships, and those who are not. Ally refers to people who identify as cisgender or heterosexual, and believe in equality for LGBTQIA people

A number of other terms come up in modern life, and it’s always useful to know what they mean. Here are a few: 

Cisgender means someone whose gender matches the sex they were assigned at birth. 

Non-binary (sometimes Genderqueer) means a person whose gender identity is not exclusively masculine or feminine‍. They can be both or neither. Some view the word queer as offensive, so if you are unsure, non-binary is typically the more accepted term. 

Genderfluid refers to a person whose gender identity tends to change over time and at different times.

What’s the difference when talking about gender vs sexuality?

Put simply, our sex, which can be taken in a physical sense, is different from our gender, which can be taken in a psychological and social sense. So regardless of the sex you were assigned at birth, you may identify as being male or female, or neither. If you identify as neither, you may be transgender, or gender non-binary.

Sexuality on the other hand, often describes the sexual feelings we experience towards others. For example, you may be straight/heterosexual, gay, lesbian, bisexual or asexual.

Remember, for both gender and sexuality, there is no reason you have to choose a label for yourself. You can explore your feelings, change your mind, settle on a label, or never do. It’s all OK. 

Pronouns are an important part of who we are, and we share them in order to avoid assuming based on appearance. By using someone’s correct pronouns, we are affirming their identity. 

The most common pronouns are ‘he’ and ‘she’, which refer to a person’s gender, but for some transgender, non-binary or queer people, these pronouns may not apply, so using them can be uncomfortable, and potentially cause a lot of stress and anxiety. One study actually showed that in the case of transgender youth, using the correct pronouns and names can reduce depression and suicide risk, so pronouns are more important than ever. 

Just as there are he/she pronouns, some people use the pronouns below:

They/them/theirs - Often used in English as a plural pronoun (more than one person), ‘they’ is also used by people who don’t identify with he/she pronouns or who identify as non-binary. An example of this would be, “Jane just nipped out for coffee but they’ll be back soon.”

Mixed pronouns - Some gender non-conforming people use a mix of pronouns, displayed as, for example, he/them, or they/her. In many cases, mixed pronouns signify the person uses both pronouns interchangeably, but potentially prefers the first pronoun mentioned. It’s best to ask what pronouns people use though, as they have unique meanings for each person.  

New pronouns and names - Although rare, some people use newer pronouns like Ze (or Zie), Zee, or Xe, while some don’t use any pronouns, and will ask to be referred to by their name alone.

How do I share my pronouns, and ask others for theirs?

Sharing pronouns is becoming common practice in many social situations. While you don’t have to do this, sharing your pronouns opens the floor for everyone to make clear how they would like to be addressed. Instead of only doing this in situations where you may be singling out specific people or communities, you can make it a habit of introducing yourself and your pronouns everywhere; “Hi, I’m Jane and my pronouns are she/her.”

Asking someone for their pronouns may feel odd in the beginning, as you don’t want to offend or pressure anyone into sharing something they’re not comfortable with, but you can do this in a friendly and respectful way. Some examples are simply “May I ask what pronouns you use?”, or “Are you comfortable sharing your pronouns?” Don’t say ‘preferred pronouns’ as this implies they are optional, which they shouldn't be. 

And remember, some people use certain pronouns in different contexts. An example of this might be a transgender person feeling comfortable using certain pronouns with friends, but using a different set of pronouns at home with family. Never assume, even if you think you know what pronouns they will use - it’s always best to ask. 

No sweat. Mistakes are bound to be made, but it’s about reacting to those mistakes with care and compassion. If you use the wrong name or pronoun, simply apologise, follow up with the pronoun you meant to use, and move on without drawing too much attention. Don’t try to apologise profusely to acknowledge how bad you feel about the mistake, as this can make everyone (especially the person whose name or pronoun was misused) feel more uncomfortable. Apologise, correct and move on with the conversation without making a fuss. 

Do you have questions about LGBTQIA terminology or pronouns? We’re always learning ourselves, but we will do our best to get you the answers you’re looking for! You can ask any questions you have over in our private Facebook group, or drop us a note on Insta @itsyoppie. Don't forget that our personalised period box can get organic tampons, pads, liners (and more!) delivered easily and regularly through your letterbox, which is one less thing to worry about if you're someone who menstruates - whatever your gender.

A Guide To LGBTQIA+ Terminology & Pronouns

OK dads, we get it - period chat isn’t your area, nor your cup of tea. But if you have a daughter approaching “that” age it’s pretty necessary, whether mum is around or not. In fact, a survey found only 41% of dads feel comfortable talking about periods with their daughters, and almost 50% have never talked about them - we’d love to see this changing. 

Even if you didn’t learn about periods in school, it’s never too late to brush up on your knowledge and make sure your daughter knows everything she needs to at this crucial stage in life. Here’s your guide to talking about periods with the young women in your life. 

Rusty on what you learned in biology class? Time to revise. Don’t worry, your daughter won’t test your knowledge so you don’t need to know everything, but understand the basics - why it happens, what’s going on inside, and how to manage it - to put her at ease if she has questions. Here’s a quick summary, followed by some helpful links with more resources:

Roughly every 28 days, an egg is released from the ovary, and travels down the fallopian tube (this happens in the ‘ovulation’ phase). When it reaches the uterus, it attaches and prepares to be fertilised. If no sperm show up to do this (you’re probably hoping they don’t until she’s in her 30s!) the uterus sheds its inner lining (the ‘menstruation’ phase) and this is the blood that comes out each month. Ta-dah... period! 

Here are the different phases of her menstrual cycle. 

Here’s how her cycle could impact different parts of her life. 

Here’s our blog post specifically for teens dealing with their first period.

It’s impossible to predict exactly when she’ll get her first period, but she’ll start to hear things at school, so we reckon it’s best to mention it a few years before it’s due. Girls typically get their period anytime from age 12, but there are often early puberty signs that she’s approaching her period. Some that dads may recognise are hair on her legs or underarms, which means it’s time to start dropping periods into conversation. 

Geez, dad, don’t make it a thing! The best way to avoid embarrassment is to swap big sit-down discussions for more frequent, casual mentions. Periods should be a topic of conversation in daily life, like at the dinner table or when something relevant comes on TV. Remember, a seemingly innocent, off-the-cuff comment can shape a young person’s view of their body for years to come, so how you react to period-related chat in your house matters. 

Even if you feel uncomfortable, avoid passing the conversation off to someone else, saying “eww” in response to mentions of blood, tampons, etc., or leaving the room when it comes up. Things like this make periods seem like an embarrassing, shameful thing to keep to yourself, which can be damaging. Ensure there are no limits in your house so your daughter never feels ashamed of what’s happening to her body. 

While we’re on the topic, make sure everyone can get involved in the conversation. That means younger siblings and brothers too. If this makes her feel uncomfortable and she asks you not to, definitely respect her wishes, but in general it can help normalise periods and ensure no one feels embarrassed by their changing body. 

This can also be positive for boys, as it teaches them to show respect to their friends with periods, and not make inappropriate comments.

No, not a toolbox full of tampons, although we like where your head’s at! Getting your period at school can be stressful, so making sure your daughter has everything she needs to feel comfortable and confident will really help. Find out what products she prefers and always have them in stock, with things like pain killers for cramps, and whatever else she asks for. 

Hate the idea of buying tampons in the supermarket? Doing this confidently is another way to show your daughter it’s no big deal, and nothing to be ashamed of. (But if you reeeally hate it, Yoppie delivers personalised period care straight to your door. Job’s a good’un.)

Time to learn your daughter’s favourite type of chocolate and fill the hot water bottle! Be sensitive to PMS symptoms that come with periods, like mood swings, belly cramps, headaches and more. These can be mild for some and intense for others. 

Check in with how she’s feeling so you can do your best to help, and talk openly about symptoms like anxiety and depression to reassure her. If these symptoms seem worse than they should be, a visit to your GP could help. 

You're past the first period… phewf! It’s not over yet though. Your daughter’s periods will change throughout her life, so make sure she feels comfortable bringing it up again in future if, for example, she has questions, has symptoms that need to be checked, chooses to go on birth control (whether for sex or to help manage heavy or irregular periods) - these are all conversations you may need to have down the line. 

Keep educating yourself, keep checking in with your daughter, and keep the communication lines entirely open from here on out. That’s what super-dads do. 

Are you struggling to bring up periods with your daughter? Our Full Stop blog has a range of topics for teens, so you can share any of the posts with her, or reach out to us on Instagram with any questions you have @itsyoppie. We’ll do our best to get you the answers you need. Don't forget that our personalised period box can get organic tampons, PMS supplements and more delivered easily and regularly through your letterbox, which is a great way to help your family normalise period care as just something else that comes through the post. Winner!

The Dad’s Guide To Period Chat With Daughters

Oh yes, we’re going there. Right in there. You know we love to talk about taboo topics on the Full Stop blog, and this is one we were keen to dive into since it’s so rarely talked about. Anal sex is the act of penetrative sex with a penis (or you might use a toy or vibrator) into the anus. It’s very similar to vaginal sex, but there are a few differences when you’re doing it in the derrière. Let’s explore… 

While some people shy away from anal sex, or don’t care for it, others enjoy it and sometimes prefer it. The anus is full of sensitive nerve endings that are stimulated during anal sex, and this can make it enjoyable for all genders. For cisgender women and those assigned female at birth, it can sometimes reach the G-spot and, wait for it, the A-spot. 

Yes folks, there’s another spot in there, located near the G-spot along the vaginal wall, and some find that when these are stimulated indirectly during anal sex, it can bring on more intense orgasms. Plus there’s the added bonus that it can minimise (but not eliminate) pregnancy risk. Handy!

Risks are easy to avoid with anal sex, but they do exist, and unfortunately there tends to be a tad more risk than with vaginal sex. 

Firstly, the anus doesn’t have the same natural lubrication the vagina has, which makes penetration tougher and more likely to cause tears in the tissue inside the anus. This can lead to bacteria and viruses entering the bloodstream, including sexually transmitted infections (STIs). Although anal sex minimises the likelihood of pregnancy, it does not reduce the risk of STIs. 

Since the anal sphincter (otherwise known as the butt hole) is tight, penetration can sometimes be painful and difficult, and over time, repetition could cause the anal sphincter to weaken, and make holding poop in a bit more difficult. Kegel exercises can help with this.

The anus contains a lot of bacteria, which makes switching from anal sex to oral or vaginal sex a risk. If bacteria from the anus spreads to other areas it can cause urinary tract infections and more. Best avoided by changing condoms or cleaning off before you enter any other orifices! 

Although very uncommon, colon perforation is also a risk with anal sex, which would require surgical repair. If you experience heavy bleeding from the anus or pain following anal sex, you should see a doctor. You shouldn’t need to worry about this as long as you take it slow, don’t ignore pain, and basically don’t put anything too big up there! 

I tried it once and it didn’t work for me - why? 

Anal sex can be very personal. Some people don’t enjoy it, or find the idea a bit gross. After all, it’s the hole you poop out of. If that’s you, there’s no reason to feel pressure to keep trying. If you do want to, it can take a few goes to find what you’re comfortable with. 

The biggest key to anal sex is to engage in plenty of foreplay in order to feel super relaxed with your partner. The more relaxed you are, the easier it will be. The anus is designed to tighten, so relaxation and a lot of lube are key for a smooth entry! Remember, the anus doesn’t self-lubricate like the vagina does, so having an ample supply of lube nearby is going to ensure it doesn’t hurt, and make it more enjoyable. 

The movies would have you believe it’s a spur-of-the-moment sexual experience, but in reality anal sex tends to take a bit of prep work, and part of that is to minimise mess. It’s not impossible for poop to emerge from the anus while you’re having your fun. Don’t panic though! There are ways to avoid this happening. 

It goes without saying that you should feel comfortable enough with the person you’re having sex with that, should a mishap occur, it’s not a big deal and becomes something to giggle about rather than run away from. If you’re really worried about it being messy, you can try:

Going to the bathroom - empty your bowels a few hours before sex 

Washing around the anus - make sure you’re all clean and fresh down there 

Douching - this means flushing out the anus with water (sometimes called an enema). Remember, douching is not advised for vaginas as it can affect the pH balance and cause infections, but the anus is less risky

Doing it in the shower - by having anal sex in the shower you may be able to keep everything clean and minimise risk of poop exposure! 

There are some simple ways to reduce the risks associated with anal sex:

Have a good clean in the shower before and after to minimise spread of bacteria

Cut your nails so they’re short for any sexual activity involving the anus. This avoids any tears that could cause infection

Change condoms if you want to put a penis into a mouth or vagina after it's been inside the anus. This also minimises the transfer of bacteria

Use lots of lube to reduce the risk of tears in the anus

Stop immediately if anal sex becomes painful

See your doctor after anal sex if you notice bleeding or experience abdominal pain

Wear a condom and take measures to protect yourself from STIs, such as getting the HPV vaccine

Are you curious about trying anal sex? You can ask any questions you have over in our private Facebook group, or drop us a note on Insta @itsyoppie. Don't forget that our personalised period box can get organic tampons, pads, liners (and more!) delivered easily and regularly through your letterbox. That frees up some headspace for thinking about the more fun things you can get up to below the belt!

Your Guide To Enjoyable & Safe Anal Sex

As you probably know, we’re big fans of reducing plastic (it’s why all our menstrual care products contain 0% plastic) but we know that going to the supermarket can be a bit of a challenge when you’re trying to avoid it - hello single-use plastic nightmare! 

So we thought we’d provide a helping hand to ensure your weekly (or daily) food shop is sans-plastic and pro-environment. Let’s start from the very beginning.

You’ll want to start by finding the shop nearest you that offers the best plastic-free options. Your local ‘express’ shops probably won’t cut it, so do some digging. Which? published a review in 2019 of the UK supermarkets with recyclable packaging and those who have pledged to make improvements, so you can check that out to find the best options near you. 

There are also lots of dedicated refill shops popping up where you bring your own containers and stock up on a bunch of stuff with no plastic in sight. This great article from Pebble Mag shows plastic-free shops all over the UK. 

Plastic-free shopping starts at home, because the more prepared you are before you hit the aisles, the better your choices will be. Start planning meals ahead of time, so you a) don’t panic-buy unnecessary items, b) can buy in bulk, and c) don’t end up throwing food away. 

You’ll also want to bring your own bags with you. Sorry to be Captain Obvious, but it’s always worth keeping in mind that the average person in England used to use 140 single-use plastic bags per year, and the plastic bag tax has already made a big difference to this, cutting the number by a whopping 86%. But from 2017-18 many major retailers sold around 1.75 billion plastic bags, so there’s still massive room for improvement. 

If you regularly forget to bring your own bags, make a point to hang them by the door, or fold ‘em up in your most-used handbag or backpack so you’re never caught short. If you do forget, purchase one of the store’s own bags-for-life, as these are always handy to have! 

OK, I’m in the fruit and veg aisle. Now what? 

Right away you’re faced with the ultimate dilemma; do I buy the plastic-covered pack of carrots (easy choice) or do I weigh out my own loose ones (slightly more time-consuming, but good for the environment). It’s time we say goodbye to the single-use plastic in this aisle, because the majority of it is completely unnecessary. 

Sure, it has its uses (some people lack mobility and may require something they can simply grab and add to their basket) but for most of us, it’s easy to start weighing out our fruit and veggies and take them home in a reusable bag or container. Instead of using those annoying rolls of plastic bags provided, opt for paper ones instead, or bring your own lightweight tote bag to fill with what you need. 

Let’s head to the deli counter. How do I buy meat and cheese without plastic?! 

It’s not widely advertised, but you can take your own containers to the deli counter to transport items like this. They will weigh your items the same way, but instead of wrapping it up in single-use plastic, they’ll put it in your own container. Supermarkets are making it easier to go plastic-free, with the likes of Morrisons, Tesco, Waitrose and more changing their policies to reflect their customers’ desire to ditch plastic. 

This bakery section smells amazing... how do I get a loaf home without plastic?

You can bring your own bags and reusable containers here too, and stock up on bread ‘til your heart’s content without taking home those flimsy plastic wraps. 

Phewf! But wait, now for the rest of the shop...

There are a few aisles where it’s unfortunately tough to shop plastic-free, as many things come in single-use plastic or plastic tubs. Luckily many brands are starting to get the message that consumers don’t want their weekly shop packaged in plastic, so they’re making changes for the better, plus new brands are popping up that have completely eliminated plastic from their processes. Score! 

In the meantime, look out for products that come in paper or cardboard packaging where possible, and don’t forget to squeeze them a little to see if there’s a sneaky added layer of plastic inside - don’t you hate it when that happens? 

Switch from tubs of butter to the foil-wrapped kind to lessen your plastic 

Avoid individual snack packs and buy one large bag of the same thing (crisps, nuts, sweets, etc.). Portion them up yourself at home to save extra plastic 

For sweets, make use of the pick ‘n’ mix section! There are some great old-school favourites there, and you can usually take your own paper bag along to fill up 

If you buy a lot of milk, look into using your local milkman and requesting glass bottles, as in many cases they will pick them up when you’re done and reuse them

Look for other loose items that supermarkets have out, like dried fruit, nuts and seeds 

Buy the canned versions of foods that might otherwise be packaged in plastic, such as basic vegetables, soup, beans and lentils 

Never be embarrassed to ask! Supermarket assistants have a much better idea of what stock they have, and probably already know the products with less plastic, so if you’re looking for a more sustainable option to replace one of your regular purchases, ask for advice on alternatives they would recommend. In most cases they will be happy to help you. 

Are you trying to cut down your plastic use? Let us know your tips and the steps you’re taking in our private Facebook group or drop us a note on Insta @itsyoppie. Don't forget that our personalised period box can get organic tampons, PMS supplements and more delivered easily and regularly through your letterbox with eco-friendliness built in, so you know you aren't adding to that big ol' landfill problem with your time of the month.

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Is it hot in here?! Many things fluctuate throughout your cycle (hello food cravings!), and your sex drive is no exception. One minute you’re up for it, the next you’re in a pyjamas-and-TV mood, but once you learn how your body works each month, you may find your sex drive becomes a tad more predictable.

Let’s dive into all things sex drive; why it blows hot and cold, how to handle it, and even some tips if your partner’s libido is difficult to forecast… 

What is ‘sex drive’ and what controls it? 

You may have heard words like ‘libido’, ‘horny’, ‘urges’; it all just means you’re in the mood for sexual activity. It may seem like it comes out of nowhere, but sex drive actually increases and decreases due to a perfect storm of biological factors, like testosterone and estrogen levels, psychological factors like stress, and social factors like your intimate relationships. 

When all of these stars align you’re in for a good time. Research has found the ovulation phase of your cycle (when you’re most fertile) is also when you’re most horny. Our bodies are basically biologically programmed to procreate during the ovulation window so you may notice a shift in - ahem - randiness around then!  

Why do I sometimes feel like I’d rather scratch my eyes out than have sex?

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